In the past few months, I have received messages from people asking, “Can someone adopt me?” These are not children, they are adults. And every time I read a message like that, my heart pauses. Not because I doubt the question, but because I understand the pain behind it.
As someone raised in Ghana, where family and communal belonging are deeply rooted, I know how important it is to feel part of something. In many African cultures, adults are cared for by extended family and surrounded by community. But I also know that not everyone gets to grow up in that kind of support system.
So, let’s explore this question: Can adults actually be adopted? And if not, what are people really asking for?
Is It Legally Possible to Adopt an Adult?
In Ghana, the short answer is no. Legally, adoption applies only to children under 18, and the process is handled by the Department of Social Welfare and the Central Adoption Authority under the Children’s Act and L.I. 2488 (2022). Adult adoption is not recognized under Ghanaian law.
However, in other parts of the world, including the United States, Germany, and Japan, adult adoption is legal. It is often used to formalize emotional or lifelong relationships, particularly between stepparents and adult stepchildren or long-time caregivers and those they support.
Why Do Adults Want to Be Adopted?
From the messages I receive, I have come to see that when adults say, “I want to be adopted,” they are not necessarily looking for legal paperwork. They are looking for:
• A place to belong
• A parent figure who sees them
• Emotional safety
• Unconditional love
Many grew up in orphanages, aged out of foster care, or experienced neglect. Others were raised in homes but never truly felt wanted or seen. Now, as adults, they are still carrying that ache for family.
What Can Be Done?
If adult adoption is not legal in your country, like in Ghana, here are other ways to find or create family:
• Embrace chosen family: You can form deep, lasting bonds with people who love and support you, even if not related by blood.
• Explore mentorship: Sometimes, a mentor can become a parental figure in your life.
• Consider symbolic adoption: Some people hold private or spiritual adoption ceremonies to mark their commitment to each other.
• Seek counseling and support: Healing from abandonment and rejection takes time. You do not have to do it alone.
You Are Not Alone
If you have ever asked, “Can someone adopt me?” I want you to know I see you. I honour your journey. You are not strange or broken for asking. You are simply human, and your need for love is valid.
I am here to support you, not just children, but also adults who are still healing from childhood wounds. If you ever need a listening ear, guidance, or just someone to talk to, please reach out.
📩 Email: charistouch.worldwide@gmail.com
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